Passive/Agressive

I've been gone a while. Part of it was just me hiding from the world.  Other parts were me just being somewhere else.  DH has been going through surgeries since the beginning of the year.  #1 was right carpel tunnel.  Last week was Right rotator cuff repair.  Sometime down the line will be the left carpel tunnel.  This is a guy who prides himself on being 'the guy who can do things'..  Not now he can't.  He is not supposed to raise his shoulder on his own for the next 5 weeks (one week down, 5 to go).  Our biggest concern was how he was going to get in and out of our waterbed.  Yes, we still sleep on a waterbed.  He's been sleeping on one since he was 16 and now for the two of us it's been over 30 years.  Turns out that isn't the biggest hurdle.  Try not using the hand you normally use for, well you know, hygeine.  I spent a few hundred on a bidet-esque attachment for the commode.  With heated water no less.  Problem solved.

The next thing was trying to get him to realize that I don't need reminding about what has to be done and when, the things usually done by him, but also me.  Things like watering the animals, feeding, taking out the trash, normal stuff. 

But we're getting worked out.  He starts PT on Wednesday and I'm wondering how that will work.  I think the clinic has purposefully set him up with a woman therapist so he can't whine.

I am ready for winter to be over, at least the cold and grey winter.  Some sun would help all of us feel a bit better.